Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Push Through The Problem...Focus On The Blessings

I'm taking a slight detour from the type of posting I do around here, but I just had to share something that was so simple, yet so profound to me. 

At my new women's small group this week, we were talking about our words (as wives) and how important they are in impacting our husbands.  I don't know about you, but I always have room for improvement in this area.  (I can just hear Robert saying "Amen!" to that last sentence)

For me, it is easy to sit and nit pick at what Robert is doing, why he's doing it, and what I think he should be doing.  That's a bad attitude to have as a wife and not one that makes your husband desire to come home and help out.  If you sit and dwell on the negatives that you think may come, you will plant some MAJOR bitter roots that will grow into HUGE bitter weeds one day.

So, at my small group, we were sitting around talking about holding our tongues instead of speaking our minds to our husbands if they are out working, etc., and it (whatever they're doing) doesn't quite go like WE think it should go (or should've gone).  I hope you are following me here...stick with me.  I think I'll make a point.  :-)  Writing was not my forte in school!

The leader shared how her husband was out teaching their son how to "do the lawn" and while "doing the lawn" he cut one of her favorite bushes down pretty bad.  She wasn't happy when she saw it, but held her tongue and went inside.  She share how instead of dwelling on the "bad" that had happened, she decided that she would be thankful that her husband was AT HOME (instead of the hospital working overtime) and investing time WITH HER SON (instead of golf/tv/hunting)!!!!!!!

It was then I asked her, "How do you make sure it doesn't get pent up and come out later?"

Her answer, "You push through the problem, and focus on the blessing!"

WOW.  Light bulbs went off for me!

Pretty simple if you ask me.  Because I'm blessed to have a husband that WANTS to be home with us.   That works SO hard so that I have the privilege to stay home and take care of our kids.  I could go on and on about the little blessings that are all over our home and family.

So, next time you find your mind drifting towards negative thoughts about your spouse, take a step back and look at their heart motive.  And then find the blessing in the situation!  You never know how God will use that in your life to impact others! Not to mention your HUSBAND and FAMILY!

I'm sure I've heard this phrase a million times...or maybe said many different ways, but it has really stayed with me lately.  (Isn't it funny how the Lord opens your ears at certain times!?)  I feel like I can apply it to so many areas of my life.  But most importantly, my marriage!  I'm not perfect at it but I hope this will help me refocus on what matters!

I hope this encourages you today like it did me!!!  Maybe I'll have some more tidbits to share as my small group goes on this semester!  I think it's definitely going to be a good one.


  1. Great post! It is so difficult to bite our tongues. I nit pick alot. I really needed to hear this today as it is getting bad with me nearing the end of my pregnancy. I think the whole world is out to get me and that my hubby has no sympathy for me. BUT in all reality, I have no patience and am being a brat!

    Love this post...

  2. First I want to say I love your blog & you have the most adorable kids. Second..WERE YOU AT MY HOUSE LAST NIGHT!!! I so needed to hear that!! Thank you for sharing :)

  3. Thank you for posting about this. I TOTALLY do that to my husband all of the time. Please, share more of what you study in your small group. Your family is precious!!

  4. Thanks Lindsay, I really needed this today!

  5. Amen and Amen! We can all use some self reflection and improvement! I agree...love the simple, yet wonderful advice from your leader!

  6. loved loved loved this too! what a great quote to focus on the blessing. going to try to remember that one in the moments when i need it!


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